Mind Your Shoes!!

Someone told me that you judge a man's personality (and his wealth) by his shoes. If you do not like his shoes, you probably will not like his persona. The wealth part is another story.  For years, that is how I determined who would stay and who would not make it past hello. And it's kind of messed up, really. We have become so wrapped up in our physical appearances and what someone can do for you that we forget about ourselves. And I am sure so many ladies out there have these physical rituals that they have when they are interested in a guy
. Shoes were my thing. For some it is the actual size of the shoe, the height difference between his middle and index finger (😝), the cologne, the size of his hands-such trivial matters. And they forget bout the real thing- the way he treats you, his compassion, his dreams and vision, what family means to him.

And while we are at it, we forget ourselves in the process. We get so engrossed in the way we look, the lack of body hair, the size of our waist, designer clothes. And we forget what we vowed to ourselves when we were little. Our independence, being ourselves, investing, being decent. i mean, when it comes down to it, what are bringing to the table except our weaves and degrees? Do we bring values to the table? Do we encompass the qualities that our mothers actually raised up with? Despite growing into our own skin, do we acknowledge the fact that we have ancestors that went before us, and left us with culture and values and belonging, which we ought to pass on to our generations? Can you be truly judged by the footsteps that your shoe makes, and not just the way your shoe looks like?


PS: This is in no way meant to discourage guys from wearing really good shoes. Please know your oxfords, brogues, wingtips, Chelsea boots...you know..classic shoes. And when they should be worn. Thank me later.